Readers Questions Answered

I love the fact that people are interested in my journey. I have people telling me often how much they like reading my blog. It makes me feel like the readers are involved with me. So with that said I thought that as we go through this process anytime someone posts questions in their comments I would answer them.


After my last post a reader made this comment.....

Wow, seriously? That is so fascinating! Are you allowed to have sex at all? I mean, if you are married that's kind of a given but . . . I dunno, I'm so curious as to how this all works.

Do you get to hold the baby when it's born, or does it go straight to the mom?

WOW!

Ok, so to answer the questions...

#1 Yes I am allowed to have sex...with my husband. In the contract it states that for two weeks before the transfer and two weeks after we are to abstain to make sure that there would be no chance of us conceiving a child of our own.

#2 After the baby is born the first person to hold it will be the IM (intended mother) secondly the IF (intended father). I will get my chance after a while. This isn't my baby so the new family will get their time together. Once the baby arrives though that won't be the end for the IP's and my family. We plan to stay very close as we all feel like we are part of the other's family now.

Hopefully I have answered your questions dear follower. And to all of you other interested people, keep sending the questions and I will answer them to the best of my ability.

The Legal Jargon

Today I spoke with the lawyer to finalize the contract that must go with a surrogacy arrangement. They like to cross all the t's and dot all the i's to make sure in the end everyone is protected in this situation.
It's amazing all the things that they cover. From the obvious, like it's not my baby and my IP's get the baby after delivery. To the not so obvious....no tattoos and threesomes after I become pregnant. Well there goes Friday nights!
In the end the contract is there to protect everyone involved. I'm just happy it's done now. Check another step off the list!

And so it begins...

Yesterday I underwent the beginning of monitoring. Monitoring tells the doctors where I am in my cycle and if I've been ovulating. This helps determine if I am still a candidate for surrogacy and when the transfer could take place.
The results came back yesterday afternoon and everything looks fantastic!!! It's so exciting to feel like things are starting and our transfer date is getting closer. From what they told me we are seven weeks away from the transfer.
IM and I shared the results last night over an almost two hour conversation. It feels like I'm talking with an old friend....never running out of things to talk about. She truly is a wonderful woman.

Post from IM

My IM wanted to add a post to the blog the other day. She wrote some wonderful words but had some technical difficulty posting to the blog. So on behalf of my IM, here is her post.....

IM (Intended Mother)
Hello, Well what can I say I'm the Intended Mother of "myovenherbun"! Words will never be able to say how I feel about what Lisa is doing for my husband and I. It is the greatest gift that anyone could do for someone. Lisa is a remarkable woman to do this for us. We will be forever thankful that Lisa has come into our life. We will be friends forever in this journey. Reading Lisa's blog made me cry! Tears of joy though....and I love the "myovenherbun"...very clever....we could have t-shirts made.....and I'll get "mybunheroven"! IM....xoxoxox

Countdown Begins

So the dates are set for blood work and ultrasound. December 1st and 8th will be the dates. These tests will help to determine when the transfer will be. IM and I were under the impression that it would be six weeks from now but apparently things don't move at our speed. Looks like the transfer will be done closer to the middle-end of January. It's a little disappointing having to wait longer but it's just a couple weeks....hopefully. We are in the hands of the doctors....why don't I have much confidence in that?

How It All Began

Let me give you a little background history on why I would decide to do something like this. When I was 8 my aunt had a baby who grew his angel wings two days after he was born. My other aunt was never able to have her own children but adopted two boys who are now in their late teens. Watching these women who mean the world to me go through these struggles had a huge impact on my life. So even at 8 yrs old, I decided that if I ever had the chance to help a woman like one of them then that was what I was meant to do.
At 16 I learned about surrogacy and after some research decided when I was old enough and ready I would become a surrogate.
After our twin girls were born eleven months ago I knew our family was complete. Yet, I was not done having children. It was now my opportunity to find the couple that I was meant to help.
I started searching websites and forums. I posted an ad on a surrogate website and was contacted by a representative of the couple. After a few emails back and forth I had phone conversation with the IM (Intended Mother). After a two hour conversation I knew that I had just found my couple.
I am lucky to have the love and full support of a fantastic husband who has been beside me through all of this. He has understood from the beginning why this is so important to me. I'm truly lucky to have him in my life.
So we've had our early tests done, blood work and all that stuff that the doctors need to accept me as a surrogate. Now we are just counting down the days to the transfer. Over the next few weeks I will have more blood work and ultrasounds done to pinpoint the exact date of when the transfer will happen.
I will keep you posted.

First Post of My Journey

Hello, welcome to my blog. Thanks for joining me along my journey. If we haven't already met let me introduce myself. My name is Lisa. I have 4 children ages 7, 2 and 11 month old twins. I have a stepson who is 12yrs old. I myself am 33.

So you may be asking "what journey is Lisa about to embark on" Well I will tell you. I am about to start the process to become a surrogate for a wonderful couple. I am writing this blog to share my experiences during this time. There will be ups and downs, morning sickness and mood swings. I hope that you follow along and share in the happiness at the end when two people will receive the gift that they have been wishing for, for so long.