When I told people I was going to be a surrogate the first question was always "Aren't you afraid you'll become too attached? How will you give the baby(
ies) to their parents?" My answer was always; Not my baby to keep and I will be fine giving the baby to those waiting arms.
I thought it might be good to revisit those questions now. I'm now 15 weeks and feeling these little
people moving around in me. How do I feel (emotionally) about it now? Are my answers still the same to those first questions? Yes, I feel the same way now as I did before. When I went in with the mindset of these not being my children to keep then I was able to separate that attachment. I'm not the one planning a nursery or picking out names. There are two very excited people out there that are doing that instead. I am included in many discussions of cribs,
car seat and stroller options, but hey, I'm the baby guru, people come to me for my expertise in this matter. This does not make me long to want or keep these babies. Actually it increases my desire to see my
IP's as parents.
I think that these questions are very valid to look at when someone is thinking of being a surrogate. Can you let go? Especially in my situation where we plan to stay very close to my
IP's once the babies are born. I plan to revisit this topic again as the pregnancy goes on and see where my emotions are at throughout.
